Iron Man 3

The wife and I went to Iron Man 3. I found that I liked Iron Man 3 (better than 2), and while I liked that Gwyneth Paltrow’s character had a bigger role then I expected, I was disappointed by two things. That a lot of guys use that as proof that women get equal treatment, and that it is once again a Hollywood vehicle to promote an unrealistic expectation of looks on both men and women.

The first part is silly. Pepper did have a larger than expected role. I was pleasantly surprised that she was as involved as she was. I also have to say her role really probably couldn’t get much bigger because after all the movie is about Iron Man. However, this doesn’t show any parity for women in Hollywood, so please neck-beards, don’t try to use that as a highlight point.

I don’t see any women superheroes with their own movies. Now, I do admit I am not really a superhero comic fan and I have no idea who Natasha Romanoff is in the Avengers. However, it did seem like you can’t really point to her as a major character, she just seemed to be a tiny girl they shoved in a skin tight suit, not really a superhero and definitely not on the level of Thor, Iron Man or the Hulk. It is a bit like saying Michelle Rodriguez is proof women are treated as equals in action movies. While I have to say that she is represented as a bad ass, she is pretty much the only one.

The other issue I had was representation of what a normal person looks like. I realize it is a Hollywood movie, and sadly Hollywood is all about unobtainable looks. I guess I just wish they could show a more average looking people in a starring role. We keep putting unrealistic expectation on looks and it has a large impact on everyone. Both Pepper and Tony Stark are unrealistic. The actors have the base genetics, the ability to work out four hours a day for their job and the money to live a lifestyle of healthy food (a lot more expensive then most people claim). This is one contributing factor to over half the women in the USA at any one time are on a diet and over one million men are suffering from eating disorders (and is the fastest rising demographic in eating disorders).

Then again, I guess if I can’t expect women to be treated on an equal level, I definitely can’t expect that realistic looking people will be represented in media. It is a shame really.

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Work Freakout

I know I haven’t posted in a long time. Work has been busy, difficult and honestly when I am off work I really don’t want to do anything. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a good job overall. The pay and benefits are good, but the culture/staffing is proving difficult.

My team works as basically individuals. We each are assigned our own funds, and while you assume our jobs would be the same, they aren’t. Each fund has different requirements, different personalities to appease and sometimes completely different duties.

When I got hired I was given what they called the “brown eyed” fund. It’s solid waste, which is a fairly large fund. It is also the only customer service fund where our money doesn’t come from government sources, like taxes or fees. Rather it’s the actually charges for Solid Waste dumping.

Now, there are the normal personality differences, but honestly everyone I work with in the fund is pretty cool. However, my coworkers, while being very nice have lacked one big thing… training.

To just give you a little overview, I was an auditor for almost five years (and an auditor who audited this place for three, which is why they knew me, liked me and hired me). However, contrary to what everyone believes, auditors are not accountants. My job then was completely different. I knew how to rip apart and find what they are doing wrong. That is a lot different then knowing how to build it up.

My employer knows this. I was completely honest during the interview and said I knew nothing of accounting other than what I learned in school and auditing. Considering two of the higher ranked people in my department are ex-auditors as well they said they understood.

However, starting from day one of getting hired I have received almost zero training. On a few things I was shown once how to do it, but considering some of it is complicated and only done once a month, when it came around again I really had no idea what I was doing.

To top of off, there were several territoriality disputes and I was told not to ask the prior people who ran the fund any questions, rather I was to ask a backup that was assigned to me. She is experienced but not in the fund (and like I said, funds are incredibly different). Unfortunately she hasn’t had the “time” to really train me either.

So here I am eight months later, I have gotten through end of year financial statements and am barely staying afloat. Still no training and while there are some things I am really good at, there are some things I just sort of push through trying to follow what they did in the prior year.

Now, just to give you another view of what is going on, that is just one fund issue. I was assigned three funds and to aid in helping two other governmental entities as well, so its not like I got a slow build up.

So while I know I am in no danger, part of my mind is screaming in panic that I am going to get canned. Add to this I have been out sick a week due to kidney stones and I may not be able to use my available vacation days due to some weird rule on how to use vacation.

The reason for this super long post is to get people a rough idea of my stresses, this way I can now focus on my issues in detail. Thanks for starting on the road to listening to m y issues.

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365 Project March 2013

It’s a little late, but here is March 2013 portion of the 365 project

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Marmalade “sharing”

Marmalade has decided that my new desk belongs to him and I must pay attention to him and not play steam. Oh, and I figure at the very least I am going to upload pics and say little things to keep this journal going :)
marmalade sharing

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Marmalade “Helping”

I have the best wife in the world, not only is she gorgeous, she is very animal friendly. Here she is debating how well our new cat Marmalade is “helping”.

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Changes in Living Situation

Well yesterday we signed the lease to the new apartment (I am dropping it off today). It is a pretty cool apartment. It was built in 2004 and it looks like it was originally meant to be a condo.

It’s 870 square feet, one bedroom and a large “alcove” that is basically a second bedroom. The living room is large (it may be as large or larger than our old apartment). It is within two blocks of work, within walking of several restaurants, library, Irish pub.

It is by far the newest and nicest apartment we have ever lived in (and only a bit more expensive than that roach motel we lived in on Beacon Hill). They have no problem with cats, its a secured building and it seems to be in great condition.

We are scheduled to have movers come over and move our stuff in on April 6th (the first Saturday of the month, we technically have the apartment from April 1st). We are getting ready to contact our current slum lord (did I forget to mention they found nothing in our apartment, but evidently the one below us is roach heaven) and tell him we are leaving.

We were originally going to play it hard-ass style, with all the gang activity outside, roaches, people attempting to commit suicide of the balcony (Christmas Eve) and tell him we were moving. However, upon thinking about it. I think I will explain my new job requires me to move and if he hesitates bring up those points above. We are willing to pay through May even to satisfy any out of pocket expenses the landlord will have (we will be out of here April 14th at the latest, leaving them with a paid for apartment for six weeks).

We will see how this goes. I will post photos when we move. I had taken some of the apartment when we looked at it, but I feel funny posting images of an apartment that has someone else’s property in it (it is still occupied until the 24th).

Oh, is it sad that I am excited for our first washer/dryer in six years?

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Stress and Anxiety

I am tired, not sure how to be more specific  then just tired all over. I think I have been burning my candles on both sides too often.

My wonderful wife is going through some stressful times at school. My parents have their normal money stress, which then adds to my money stress. My work is going great, but is full of stress as well. Finally, been having my own mental stress (a lot of body dysmorphic issues, and self worth questions). Also a bit of stress with output for new feline friend and for having to start paying student loans again.

Don’t get me wrong, my life is going well. I am making a decent living. I have an incredibly loving wife. Hell, I even have a cat that I think likes me :) . We do have a good chunk of credit card debt, even after I get my tax return, but its nothing we can’t handle and still live fairly well.

I have been meditating recently (using the butsudan) trying to get a handle on this. It does work a bit, and I suspect once stress from the other portions of my life subsides it will get easier. The hemorrhage of money has also stopped so there isn’t that stress anymore. Also back to gaming regularly, that always helps with stress.

I do have to say at least I am not sick anymore, I was sick for several weeks and it really sucked. I feel tired, but fairly healthy. I am hoping this means the stress and mental anxiety is on its way down.

I figure within a month or so the bills will be under control, my stress will be lessened and I may even be larping again, as a player this time. I am probably going to hide in the house for most of the month, recover and then start again.

I am very grateful to have such a supporting wife, things would be a lot harder without her.

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Rough Morning

Not a good site in the morning. A dead body under a tarp on Airport Road in front of Home Depot.

It’s funny how you notice things, like I noticed his large dirty tennis shoes and jeans poking out from under the tarp while cops cordon off the street.

No idea if it was someone hit by a car, but there was a pickup pulled over in middle of the road.

Wonder if he was a pedestrian hit by the truck or the driver of the truck.

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Cybercat 2013

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I present to you “Cybercat 2013″ Our poor kitty named Marmalade had a huge abscess removed (he was a stray we took in after five months of watching him get thinner, we assumed he had a home, but we were wrong).

It looks gruesome, but he is happy!

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365 Project – February 2013

February installment of my 365 Project

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